Hi, and welcome back to Nieshia Tionne’s Blog! I hope you’re well and continuously striving towards greatness.
I was riding in the car the other day with the kids, and for some odd reason, I began to think about middle school. Now, middle school was rough for me. It became especially tough in seventh grade when a guy I had a crush on called me out on my looks in front of the entire class.
He was the new guy at school, and most of the girls that saw him immediately wanted to get to know him more. When I first laid eyes on him, I thought he was the cutest thing to ever walk down those middle school halls. To my surprise, he ended up in two of my classes.
On this particular day, I made the mistake of informing this girl who was supposed to be my friend that I had a tiny crush on the new guy and made her promise that she wouldn’t tell him. She promised, and we went on about our day.
As soon as we got to gym class, the other class I shared with him and my “friend,” I felt something was a bit off. She acted a bit strange like she told something and didn’t want me to find out about it. I, harshly, found out at the end of class why she was acting strange.
At the end of class, the class was standing in line waiting on the bell to release us when the guy I had a crush on said something that hurt me to my core. My so-called friend was attempting to get him to come closer to me, but he flat-out refused and hurled these hurtful words in my direction:
“I already have a girlfriend. Plus, she’s ugly as hell.”
To say that I was embarrassed would be an understatement. I held my tears and shame for as long as I could. When I got home, I burst into tears. For years after that incident, I had a hard time seeing myself as pretty.
As I look back on that incident, I laugh and thank God that he did think I was “ugly.” Yes, he hurt my feelings, but that rejection was for a reason. The more I found out about him, the more I realized that he was not a guy I would’ve wanted to get close to.
For those of you who may feel like you’re unattractive, I would like for you to know that you are beautiful! I don’t care what anybody says about you; you need to see for yourself that you are an attractive person.
Please understand that not everyone you come across is going to think you’re ugly. Not everyone you come across is going to believe you are pretty. You know what? That is perfectly fine. As long as you know that you are an amazing woman with lots to offer, that’s what matters.
I have some affirmations I would like to share with you to say those days when you don’t feel attractive. I want you to stand in front of a mirror, look yourself right in the eyes, and say these affirmations out loud. Say them and believe them!
Sis, you are beautiful!
*If you’re struggling with your confidence, check out this blog that I uploaded a week or so ago!*
1. I am worthy of love and respect.
2. I am a beautiful woman.
3. No matter what any says about me, I know that God made me this way for a reason.
4. I will continuously work on growing in the areas of my life that I need to grow in.
5. I attract lovely things and people into my life.
Say those affirmations out loud and believe them! You are beautiful and don’t you ever forget it!
Have a wonderful day!